Is it a red flag if they cancel plans often?
Short answer
Yellow flag
Everyone cancels sometimes. It's a yellow flag when it keeps happening, especially at the last minute and without suggesting a new time. People who want to see you reschedule quickly. Say once how it makes you feel, then let their actions answer.
It depends on
- Whether they suggest a new date right away
- How often it happens
- Whether the reasons sound real
What you could say
- I get it, but it's happened a few times now. Is this still something you want?
- Let's pick a day that really works for you.
- I'll leave the next plan to you 🙂
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Questions
Is it a red flag if they cancel plans often?
Yellow flag. Everyone cancels sometimes. It's a yellow flag when it keeps happening, especially at the last minute and without suggesting a new time. People who want to see you reschedule quickly. Say once how it makes you feel, then let their actions answer.
How many cancellations are too many?
Two or three in a row without rescheduling is a pattern worth noticing.
Should I stop making plans?
Let them make the next plan. It shows you how interested they are.
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