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Is it a red flag if they talk about their ex a lot?

Short answer

Yellow flag

Mentioning an ex now and then is normal. Talking about them all the time, especially with anger or longing, often means they're not over it. If every ex is “crazy”, pay attention to how they describe conflict: one day that story might be about you.

It depends on

  • How recent the breakup was
  • Whether they speak with anger, sadness or calm
  • Whether they take any responsibility

What you could say

  • It sounds like that still hurts. How are you doing with it?
  • I'd love to hear more about you, not them 😄
  • Do you feel ready to date again?

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Is it a red flag if they talk about their ex a lot?

Yellow flag. Mentioning an ex now and then is normal. Talking about them all the time, especially with anger or longing, often means they're not over it. If every ex is “crazy”, pay attention to how they describe conflict: one day that story might be about you.

Is it bad to talk about your ex on a first date?

A mention is fine; a long story usually isn't. Save it for later.

What if all their exes are “crazy”?

That's a yellow flag worth watching: the common factor is them.

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