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Is it a red flag if they keep me secret?

Short answer

Often a red flag

Not posting on social media isn't a problem on its own. But avoiding being seen with you in public, never introducing you to anyone, or hiding you after months often means they're not single, not serious, or ashamed. You deserve to be part of their life.

It depends on

  • How long you've been together
  • Whether they're private about everything or just you
  • Whether they explain honestly when you ask

What you could say

  • I'd love to meet your friends. When could we do that?
  • It feels like you're hiding me. Why is that?
  • I want a relationship where we're open about each other.

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Is it a red flag if they keep me secret?

Often a red flag. Not posting on social media isn't a problem on its own. But avoiding being seen with you in public, never introducing you to anyone, or hiding you after months often means they're not single, not serious, or ashamed. You deserve to be part of their life.

Is it a red flag if they don't post me?

Not by itself: some people don't post anything. Hiding you in real life is different.

How long before meeting their friends?

It varies, but after a few months of dating it's reasonable to expect it.

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