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Is it a red flag if they're friends with their ex?

Short answer

Depends how

Staying friends with an ex can be healthy, especially after a long time or if they share children or friends. It's a yellow or red flag when there's secrecy, late-night messages, or you feel you come second. Transparency is the key.

It depends on

  • Whether it's open or secret
  • How recent the breakup was
  • How they react when you ask

What you could say

  • I'd love to meet them sometime.
  • I feel uneasy about the late-night chats. Can we talk about it?
  • What are the boundaries with your ex?

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Is it a red flag if they're friends with their ex?

Depends how. Staying friends with an ex can be healthy, especially after a long time or if they share children or friends. It's a yellow or red flag when there's secrecy, late-night messages, or you feel you come second. Transparency is the key.

Is it normal to be friends with an ex?

For some people, yes. What matters is openness and respect for your relationship.

Can I ask them to stop?

You can share how you feel. Asking for honesty is fair; controlling who they see isn't.

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