Should I text after an argument?
Short answer
Yes, once you've calmed down
Give it a few hours so neither of you writes something you'll regret. Then text to reconnect, not to win: say you care and suggest talking properly, ideally in person. Long texts arguing your side usually make it worse.
Why this happens
After a fight, both people are often waiting for the other to reach out first. A calm message breaks the deadlock without anyone losing face.
It depends on
- How big the argument was
- Whether you're still angry
- Whether you're a couple or just dating
What you could send
- I didn't like how that went. Can we talk later?
- I'm sorry for [your part]. I care about us.
- Still annoyed, but I love you. Talk tonight?
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Should I text after an argument?
Yes, once you've calmed down. Give it a few hours so neither of you writes something you'll regret. Then text to reconnect, not to win: say you care and suggest talking properly, ideally in person. Long texts arguing your side usually make it worse.
Who should text first after a fight?
Whoever is calm first. It's not losing, it's caring more about the relationship than the argument.
Should we argue by text?
Try not to. Tone gets lost in text; save the real talk for a call or in person.
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