Should I text after a second date?
Short answer
Yes, the same day or next
A second date means you both chose to see each other again, so a quick text after is natural. Keep it warm and simple, mention something from the date, and if you'd like a third, suggest it. There's no need to play it cool now.
Why this happens
By the second date, most of the guessing is over: you both showed up twice. Waiting to text now usually just creates confusion that neither of you wants.
It depends on
- Whether you'd like a third date
- Whether they already texted you
- How the goodbye felt
What you could send
- That was even better than the first one 😄
- Thanks for tonight! Same time next week?
- I really enjoyed today. Your turn to pick the place next time?
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Where you stand
Questions
Should I text after a second date?
Yes, the same day or next. A second date means you both chose to see each other again, so a quick text after is natural. Keep it warm and simple, mention something from the date, and if you'd like a third, suggest it. There's no need to play it cool now.
Who should text after a second date?
Either of you. By the second date, texting first shows interest, not desperation.
How soon should I suggest a third date?
In the same text or the next day. Momentum helps.
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