Should I text first?
Short answer
Yes, if you want to talk
Texting first shows interest, and most people like that. The old rule of waiting for them to go first mostly leads to two people waiting. If you've been the one always texting first, though, step back for a bit and see if they reach out.
Why this happens
Many people wait to text first out of fear of looking too interested. But interest is attractive, and someone has to start the conversation.
It depends on
- Whether you always text first
- Whether they reply warmly when you do
- Whether it's been a long time since you talked
What you could send
- Saw this and thought of you 😄
- How did [the thing they mentioned] go?
- Hey you, what are you up to this weekend?
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Questions
Should I text first?
Yes, if you want to talk. Texting first shows interest, and most people like that. The old rule of waiting for them to go first mostly leads to two people waiting. If you've been the one always texting first, though, step back for a bit and see if they reach out.
Is it bad if I always text first?
Not bad, but notice it. If they never start a conversation, they may be less interested than you.
Do men or women have to text first?
No. Whoever wants to talk can text first.
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