I've been ghosted: should I text them?
Short answer
One last message, at most
If someone has gone silent for days after regular contact, they've made a choice, even if it's a cowardly one. You can send one calm message for your own peace of mind, or nothing at all. Don't chase, and don't ask them to explain.
Why this happens
Ghosting is usually about avoiding an awkward conversation. It says more about them than about you, and you don't need their explanation to move on.
It depends on
- How long you'd been talking or dating
- Whether something happened just before
- Whether it's been days or weeks
What you could send
- Hey, I haven't heard from you, so I'll take it you're not feeling it. All the best!
- No hard feelings. Take care 🙂
- (Or nothing: silence is an answer too.)
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I've been ghosted: should I text them?
One last message, at most. If someone has gone silent for days after regular contact, they've made a choice, even if it's a cowardly one. You can send one calm message for your own peace of mind, or nothing at all. Don't chase, and don't ask them to explain.
Why do people ghost?
Mostly to avoid an awkward conversation. It says more about them than about you.
What if they come back after ghosting?
Ask yourself if you'd trust them again. A simple explanation and an apology is the minimum.
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