They're mad at me: should I text?
Short answer
Yes, once you're both calm
Give it a little time, then send a short, sincere message that acknowledges how they feel. Don't argue your side by text, and don't send several messages if they need time. Offer to talk properly, ideally in person or on a call.
Why this happens
When someone's upset, they usually want to feel heard more than they want an explanation. A calm message that shows you understand works better than defending yourself.
It depends on
- What happened
- Whether you did something wrong
- Whether they said they need time
What you could send
- I can tell you're upset, and I'm sorry. Can we talk?
- I didn't mean to hurt you. When you're ready, I'd like to hear how you feel.
- I was wrong about [thing]. Sorry.
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They're mad at me: should I text?
Yes, once you're both calm. Give it a little time, then send a short, sincere message that acknowledges how they feel. Don't argue your side by text, and don't send several messages if they need time. Offer to talk properly, ideally in person or on a call.
How long should I wait?
A few hours to a day, depending on how big it was.
Should I apologise by text?
A short text to open the door is fine; the real apology is better face to face.
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