A week of silence: should I text?
Short answer
Once, lightly
After a week of silence, one friendly message is fine if you'd still like to see them. Don't mention the silence or ask why. Their reply, or lack of one, tells you where you stand. If they don't answer, it's time to move on.
Why this happens
A week of silence usually means lower interest, but sometimes people get overwhelmed and then feel awkward about reaching out. One light message gives them an easy way back.
It depends on
- Who texted last
- How things were before the silence
- Whether you still want to see them
What you could send
- Hey stranger! How's your week been?
- Just saw [something] and thought of you 😄
- Fancy a drink this week?
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Questions
A week of silence: should I text?
Once, lightly. After a week of silence, one friendly message is fine if you'd still like to see them. Don't mention the silence or ask why. Their reply, or lack of one, tells you where you stand. If they don't answer, it's time to move on.
Is a week of silence the end?
Often, but not always. One message will tell you.
Should I ask why they went quiet?
No. Keep it light; asking for an explanation puts pressure on.
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