Should I text before our date?
Short answer
Yes, a short confirmation
A quick message the day before or the morning of the date is polite and practical: it confirms the time and place, and shows you're looking forward to it. Keep it short and don't over-plan the whole evening by text.
Why this happens
Dates arranged days in advance can get fuzzy: people forget times, places or even whether it's still on. One short message avoids an awkward wait at the bar.
It depends on
- How long ago you set up the date
- Whether the time and place are clear
- Whether you've been chatting since
What you could send
- Still on for tomorrow at 7? Looking forward to it 😄
- See you at [place] at 8!
- Just checking we're still good for tonight?
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Questions
Should I text before our date?
Yes, a short confirmation. A quick message the day before or the morning of the date is polite and practical: it confirms the time and place, and shows you're looking forward to it. Keep it short and don't over-plan the whole evening by text.
Is it needy to confirm a date?
No. A short confirmation is considerate and reduces no-shows.
How long before should I text?
The day before or the morning of the date is ideal.
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