Should I text first in the talking stage?
Short answer
Yes, if you're interested
The talking stage is when interest matters most, so texting first is a good sign, not a weakness. Keep it balanced: if you're always the one starting, let them take the lead sometimes. And don't stay in the talking stage too long: suggest meeting.
Why this happens
In the talking stage, both people are testing interest. Texting first shows yours, but a balance between you shows whether it's mutual.
It depends on
- Whether they also start conversations
- How long you've been talking
- Whether you've met yet
What you could send
- Hey, how's your day going?
- Ok, I need your opinion on something 😄
- We should talk about this over a drink. Friday?
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Questions
Should I text first in the talking stage?
Yes, if you're interested. The talking stage is when interest matters most, so texting first is a good sign, not a weakness. Keep it balanced: if you're always the one starting, let them take the lead sometimes. And don't stay in the talking stage too long: suggest meeting.
How long should the talking stage last?
A couple of weeks is usually enough. Longer often means it's time to meet or move on.
What if they never text first?
Step back a little and see if they reach out. If not, they may be less interested.
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