They asked for space: should I text?
Short answer
No, respect the space
When someone asks for space, the kindest and most attractive thing you can do is give it. Don't send check-ins every day. If you need to, send one short message saying you'll give them space and you're there when they're ready, then wait.
Why this happens
Asking for space usually means someone feels overwhelmed. Texting anyway, even kindly, can feel like pressure and make them pull away more.
It depends on
- Whether they said how long
- Whether you're a couple or dating
- Whether there's anything practical to sort out
What you could send
- I'll give you the space you need. I'm here when you're ready.
- Take your time. Talk soon.
- (Then nothing until they reach out.)
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They asked for space: should I text?
No, respect the space. When someone asks for space, the kindest and most attractive thing you can do is give it. Don't send check-ins every day. If you need to, send one short message saying you'll give them space and you're there when they're ready, then wait.
How long should I give them space?
As long as they asked for, or at least a week or two if they didn't say.
Does asking for space mean it's over?
Not always. It often means they need time to think; respecting it gives the best chance.
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