Should I text first or wait for them to text me?
Short answer
Text first, unless it's always you
If you want to talk to them, text. Waiting for the other person to go first often means nobody does. The exception: if you're always the one starting every conversation, wait a little and see if they reach out.
Why this happens
Many people wait because they're afraid of looking too interested. But most people like being thought of, and a simple text is rarely a mistake.
It depends on
- Whether you always text first
- How warm their replies are
- How long it's been
What you could send
- Hey you, how's your week going?
- I was just thinking about [thing you talked about] 😄
- Free this weekend?
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Should I text first or wait for them to text me?
Text first, unless it's always you. If you want to talk to them, text. Waiting for the other person to go first often means nobody does. The exception: if you're always the one starting every conversation, wait a little and see if they reach out.
Is waiting for them to text a good strategy?
Only if you've been doing all the work. Otherwise it just slows things down.
How long should I wait before texting first?
There's no rule. If you want to talk, a day or two after your last chat is fine.
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