Should I text back right away?

Short answer

Reply when it suits you

There's no need to play games. If you see the message and want to reply, reply. Waiting on purpose to look busy usually just slows things down. The only exception: don't reply instantly to something that upset you. Take a moment first.

Why this happens

Many people believe waiting to reply makes them look more attractive. In reality, easy and warm communication is what people remember.

It depends on

Whether you're free to reply
Whether the message upset you
How fast you both usually reply

What you could send

(Just reply: no timer needed.)
If you're busy: “Crazy day, will reply properly later!”
If it upset you: wait until you're calm.

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