Should I text in between dates?
Short answer
Yes, a little
A few messages between dates keep the connection going. You don't need to text all day: a check-in, a funny thing you saw, or planning the next date is plenty. Save the real conversations for when you meet.
Why this happens
Early on, texting keeps you on each other's mind, but long chats can replace real dates. A little contact between dates keeps the excitement for when you meet.
It depends on
- How often you're seeing each other
- Whether they reply warmly
- What you both prefer
What you could send
- How did [thing they mentioned] go?
- Saw this and thought of you 😄
- Can't wait for Saturday!
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- No reply for 2 days: should I text again?
- A week of silence: should I text?
- They haven't texted in two weeks: should I text?
- A month of not talking: should I text?
- I've been ghosted: should I text them?
- They're ignoring me: should I text?
Where you stand
Questions
Should I text in between dates?
Yes, a little. A few messages between dates keep the connection going. You don't need to text all day: a check-in, a funny thing you saw, or planning the next date is plenty. Save the real conversations for when you meet.
How often should I text between dates?
Once a day or every couple of days is a good start. Match their rhythm.
Can texting too much ruin it?
Texting all day can make meetings feel flat. Leave something to talk about.
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